I’ll never forget how excited I was to become a mom. We started trying a year after we got married. I’ll never forget how excited I was to take a test that first month. I was young and had no clue that you should wait to test.
I didn’t know it at the time, but the sadness I felt with that first negative test was nothing compared to what was about to come.
A year later, I saw my doctor. She was kind, but said I was still young (I was 23 when we started trying) so I needed to give it another year. By this point I had read up on infertility and knew that after a year, I should have had some sort of luck.
I was not happy so I went to another doctor. They said the same thing. So I went to someone else. You guessed it… we were told to wait. Are you kidding me? I am supposedly a healthy 24 year old… something was not right people. So, I got a referral to a fertility doctor.
We started simple with interventions. Just medication to hopefully get things going. All of my tests were normal, so this was the best option. Three months later we switched to IUI – IntraUterine Insemination. We did seven months of this procedure which was not a normal amount of time. I just wanted to keep going because I knew it was going to work. It didn’t.
At this point I needed a break. I was exhausted and overwhelmed. We had been at it for three years and looking back I was depressed. However, during that year or so break, I could not stop thinking about IVF. So, we decided to give it a go. We had been able to pay for everything up until this point, but had to take out a loan for InVitro.
We had three chances to get this right and I prayed and prayed and prayed. After three failed IVFs I had surgery for endometriosis and I went on my way. It was so hard to quit, but I knew that is what my husband and I needed.
There are two very important things I learned over the years of taking #allthefertilitymeds. One – I’m an emotional eater. Two – fertility meds are hormones which means they will make you gain weight. So, not only was I battling the emotions of not being able to do the one thing my heart wanted, I was battling my weight. So I kept eating and drinking.
By the age of 28 I was diagnosed with unexplained infertility, needed an egg donor, and 50 pounds overweight. Life sucked, y’all.
We decided we needed a vacation and our friends were getting married in Hawaii. That January I decided to do what I hate and make a resolution to get in bikini body shape. I had 5 months. Friends, I did IT! I didn’t get down to the weight I wanted, but I was fit and healthy just in time for Hawaii!
What I Did
I hired a personal trainer. One thing I have learned about myself over the years is: I completely suck at doing things on my own. I will start things all day long, but never finish them.
I strength trained with my trainer two days a week and walked the other five. I never in my wildest dreams thought that I would lift weights. It actually ended up being something that I really enjoyed.
I ate clean. This was THE hardest thing for me to do. I had so many years of eating junk and I was still emotional, that I struggled hard with this. The nice thing that helped tremendously was my trainer gave me two menu options, so I had two choices for the week for each meal and snacks.
I meal planned and prepped. If I didn’t do this, I would have failed miserably. I really began to understand the quote, “If you fail to plan, you plan to fail.”
I TOOK CARE OF ME! What?! I know! It’s a toughy, but it really helped get my life back in order. Even though it was just my husband and I, my responsibilities at work were increasing, but I still made my own time.
Ten months after I started my Gettin’ My Booty in Shape Journey, I found out I was pregnant. For seven years we had never had a single positive test, and then there we were. I had this MIRACLE!! I believe wholeheartedly that God was just waiting for the perfect time for us to become parents. However, in order to carry this precious miracle, I needed to get healthy.
There are so many different things that people say you need to do in order to get pregnant. Stand on your head, relax, go on vacation, etc. I am not necessarily a believer in those tactics, but getting your body in the best shape possible to carry sweet babe… That’s something I stand behind. And even had it not resulted in my sweet, sweet miracle, I would have been happier because I was healthier! Win win!
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